Minimalism: Why people love to buy things

Minimalism means different things to different people. For me, it is way of living where we focus on what’s important to us and let go of what’s distracting us from our priorities. Too much useless crap will stir up confusion, stress and frustrations in our mind. But then, why people desperately cling on negative thoughts, toxic relationships and material possessions that serve no purpose? Maybe those thoughts and kind of relations bring them a (false) sense of security and the worst of all things: comfort. But, what about material possessions?

It turns out that acquiring things is part of our survival instinct. Really, our brain did not evolve as quickly as our societies. According to Dr. Ryan Howell from the San Francisco State University, our ancestors always grabbed everything that could be useful because it was very likely they wouldn’t come across that item again.

Another reason is that people actually buy feelings and identities. Not things. Buying a Rolex, an Ipad or a Porsche will surely bring you individual significance. You will feel like you really matter and will associate the object’s value to your identity. For example, the Rolex will make you feel classy, rich and important. So, it’s really all about feelings and emotional needs.

Last reason that I found is this familiar concept called retail therapy. For some people, shopping will give them a feeling of control and other positive emotions. They can decide what to buy and what not to buy. However, this mood boost is only temporary. Remember how happy you were when you got your new phone or laptop a year ago? What about now?

To conclude, I want you to just take your time to think about this. Material possessions give us happiness. Sure. But only for a short period of time. I firmly believe that real happiness is found in human connection and experiences. Maybe you should invest in a dinner with your loved ones rather than on the latest TV model.

Reference:

  • http://humanelevation.tonyrobbins.com/blog/career/people-buy-feelings-not-things?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_content=People%20by%20feelings&utm_campaign=Editorial
  • http://www.bbc.com/capital/story/20150318-tame-your-inner-impulse-buyer
  • http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2013/06/why-wanting-expensive-things-makes-us-so-much-happier-than-buying-them/276717/

heyelsale

January 26, 2016

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  1. Reply

    jassy

    December 29, 2015

    i like buying things because for an emotional boost. I do try really hard not to go overboard because i don’t believe in excess. But true happiness is found in connection and experiences with others.

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      HelloWonders

      December 29, 2015

      Yes! I completely agree with you. I find it really hard too but it’s so worth it 😉

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    shootingvienna

    December 29, 2015

    Shopping is really not my thing, sometimes I have my phase and like to browse online but since I moved I loved sorting out my wardrobe and things and letting go of clutter.
    I think it has also to do with my upbringing since my family has a lot of hoarders and I just can’t stand it. I think it also has a lot to do with your surrounding, a lot of people have not many past time activities besides shopping.

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      HelloWonders

      December 29, 2015

      Same here! There’s just something about letting go of clutter that makes us feel more peaceful because we don’t need to worry about it anymore. You’re so right. If people could invest their time in finding or doing what they really love to do instead of distracting themselves with shopping, I’m sure a lot of them would feel less «empty», anxious or depressed.

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        shootingvienna

        January 6, 2016

        Exactly! I also notice that due to social media you get sucked into the lives of strangers and forget that you already have people (friends and relatives) that you maybe should talk to more and ring up instead of stalking someone unknown online. Being guilty of this one too but I am working on it 🙂

        Do you have any (monthly) goals for this year?

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          HelloWonders

          January 9, 2016

          I totally agree with you! That’s why I deleted my Instagram account recently. I always felt not good enough because I compared myself to other people’s «perfect» lives and I got tired of this. I think social media can be very useful and a powerful tool, but we should put boundaries.

          This year I decided to not do the monthly goals anymore because it doesn’t work very well for me. Instead, I’m trying to use a visual board and, until now, it seems more efficient . I think each method is good, but it depends on how every person is motivated haha, if that makes sense. 🙂 I was planning to write a post about this too.

          • shootingvienna

            January 12, 2016

            I still love to use instagram to keep updated on things happening in Vienna and to get food photography inspiration but beside that I can really relate about those “perfect life shots”. Looking forward to your post then 🙂

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    Kally

    January 3, 2016

    Life Is A Journey,
    But My Best Wishes Are The Milestones
    That Will Give You Hope
    And Motivation To Move On.
    Am Wishing You A Joyous New Year!
    With warmth, love and blessings from MiddleMe to you and your readers.

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      HelloWonders

      January 3, 2016

      Thank you Kally ♡ ! Happy New Year to you too 🙂 I wish you a year full of wonderful surprises and lot of joy!

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